No body would like to die, sitting in front of computer, debugging a code! If everything is normal, one would like spending time with family, friends, loved ones or serving society or playing… etc.
One may start enjoying the job, but lets be clear on this – You do job for money and not because it gives you satisfaction. If you think, your job gives you satisfaction – Just answer this question – Would you continue going to office, if your company stops paying you. On the other hand, planting trees, bringing somebody in knowledge, bringing smile on somebody’s face makes you happy, however it doesn’t give you any money. It gives you satisfaction. YES!
So when it’s clear that you work for money, use logic, your brain for your job and not emotions. Of course, give 100% in your job too but don’t mix emotions there.
Job, Hobby and Service are three different things. Don’t mix it!
|Question : How do I improve family ties?|
Today I took this 45mins session, Goal Setting , for YES!+ volunteers in Hingewadi. Being the first session of this kind that I was taking, I wanted it to be small. It went all well.
Few of the feedback after session:
1. I got a clear vision.
2. I could do it in one hour for which I was thinking for past two years.
3. Some points were crystal clear about my goals after the session.
Abhishek – Clarity of ideas discussed in front of me.
Yogesh – It made me more stronger to hold my goal and gave me time to think about new ways for that.
4. Pooja – It was Analytical. It forced to think about our goals which we normally never sit and think of. Not only goals but the means to achieve goals, whether goals are contradictory or not.
I will have to make it more structured next time.
The way I took the process is a secret ;). But the points covered were:
1. Putting time limit. And fear that does not let us do so. As we need to take some action with time limit set.
3. Whether goals are contradictory
4. Back in mind – goals – Personal – Material/Spiritual, Family, Service, etc
4. Inherent conflict in the world. And so sync between thought and action as while driving vehicle.
5. Benefits of focused effort like water in river
6. Goals worth aiming
1. It’s all about being a nice person: Expressions of people differ time to time. And LOVE is what moves the world. So if YOU don’t
understand unusual behavior of somebody, don’t go crazy. Remind yourself “It’s all about being a nice person”. I have not said – Don’t show anger or don’t correct the person, etc
How did I discover this 🙂 is – I have different way of life and my family members want it to be on a different way! Justifying, arguing, talking to them is not working at all and problems were increasing day by day. Being on higher side with higher purpose, I discovered – “It’s all about being a nice person” 🙂 And I started appreciating Krishna much more for the way HE lived his life, being a nice person all the time and doing what he wanted to do or getting things done the way he wanted it to :).
2. Never Mind – There is nothing to be serious about. Just be sincere 🙂 YOU can be serious only in hospitals 😉 So never mind 🙂
3. Baat karne se hi baat banati hai (बात करने से ही बात बनती है|) – It will happen only if you talk! It’s for the things when you have to take initiatives. Never mind 🙂 Don’t think much. Just say it out. And you will get new ideas, ways, contacts. Don’t hesitate to talk or don’t be prejudiced…..
First time I was in Changlang, I was to take more and more courses and second time I was there to open Art of Living center and help two teachers, who recently finished their TTC (Teachers Training Course), take courses.
Opening a center seemed a bit bigger task but I knew it will happen as Guruji had put his Sankalpa. Only thing I was to do was give my 100% :).
With all known situation as I started relaxing and my focus got reduce from the goal, my challenges increased dramatically. It was one of the biggest learning from this visit – reemphasizing the point – being 100% all the time and not letting mind get distracted. You remove your focus and it will not work.
We got a place where we can open our center, thanks to Mingtu (envisioning better Changlang). But our State Teacher Coordinator Rajaqueji told that if I am not going to be there for at least next six months, there is no point opening center unless local (new) teachers take initiative. And it was quite obvious.
So I was to direct the teachers elder than me, channelize the energy of others who already wanted to contribute. And probably for the first time I was dealing with such a subtle challenge. Good news is we have our temporary center opened there.
Teachers on returning from Bangalore after completing their TTC, thanked me a lot. I was one of the main reasons (in the seen world) they were teachers, giving them last push. Hanpotji, one of the teachers told that she got so inspired from me to go for TTC. It feels so nice to hear that!! 🙂 🙂 :). And then to surrender it. Of course, Dixonji, another teacher already built the good base there.
One more shortcoming of mine that came out of this visit was in depth planning. I was in Changlang only for 23days with main focus of opening a center. I already had decided what all courses I was going to take there. But I didn’t decide exact date and place for courses, which kept changing for one reason or other, which made my work double.
However it was good, short, sweet visit.
“A plum once said, ‘just because a banana lover came by, I converted myself into a banana.
Unfortunately, his taste changed after a few months and so I became an orange.
When he said I was bitter I became an apple, but he went in search of grapes.
Yielding to the opinions of so many people, I have changed so many times that I no more know who I am.
How I wish I had remained a plum and waited for a plum lover.’
Just because a group of people do not accept you as you are, there is no necessity for you to strip yourself off your originality.
You need to think Good of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate. Never stoop down in order to gain recognition.
Never let go of your true self to win a relationship.
In the long run, you will regret that you traded your greatest Glory – your uniqueness, for momentary validation.
Even Gandhi was not accepted by many people.
The group that does not accept you as YOU is not Your world.
There is a world for each one of you, where you shall reign as king /queen by just being yourself.
Find that world… In fact, that world will find You.
What water can do, gasoline cannot and what copper can, gold cannot.
The fragility of the ant enables it to move and the rigidity of the tree enables it to stay rooted.
Everything and everybody has been designed with a Proportion of uniqueness to serve a purpose that we can fulfil only by being our unique self.
You as you alone can serve your purpose and I as I Alone can serve my purpose. You are here to be you… Just YOU.
There was a time in this world when a Krishna was required and he was sent;
A time when a Christ was required and he was sent;
a time when a Mahatma was Required and he was sent;
a time when a J.R.D.Tata was required and he was Sent.
There came a time when you were required on this planet and hence you were sent.
Let us be the best we can be.
In the history of the universe, there has been nobody like you and to the infinity of time to come, there will be no one like you.
Existence should have loved you so much that it broke the mould after making you, so that another of your kind will never get repeated.
You are original. You are rare. You are unique. You are a wonder. You are a masterpiece. .. Your Master’s piece. Celebrate your Uniqueness.”
You are you, your own self, don’t change for others, for this is NOT even their world.
— Sri Sri Ravi Shankar (The Art of Living)
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note. In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this Rupee 500 note?”
Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this.
” He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
Still the hands were up in the air.
“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. “Now who still wants it?”
Still the hands went into the air.
“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson.
No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
You are special. Don’t ever forget it!
What is the means of life! What is that you need to live! And why are you living! What is the purpose of life. These are two different questions, isn’t it!
Money has become means of life. YES! You need food, accommodation, knowledge, gadgets, entertainment, you want to travel, communicate, etc, for all this you need money in almost all parts of the world or some kind of exchange which eventually come down to money!!
So money is very important! After all, it’s the means of life 😉 . But the sad part is today many of
us have made this money, the Purpose of life. And so many people are just running behind the money, not knowing the purpose and value of life, creating problems for themselves and people around.
It’s like you are given a car and you can put fuel into it but you don’t know your destination. So what do you do! You start driving and keep driving till eternity… not knowing where you want to go! Same with life! You are given life and you get means to live… you start earning money and keep earning not knowing the purpose of life. Or the highest priority in life remains earning.
What is the purpose of life, why is this life given to us and questions like this goes in the background most of the time, being inconvenient, because you don’t find answers easily! So it goes as because I am given life, let me live same as because I am given car let me drive not knowing where you are heading!
But once Guru comes in life, you start getting answers. He is the one who can show you who you really are! 🙂
I am so proud to have Guru like Sri Sri Ravishankar (very lovingly we call him Guruji) in my life. http://srisri.org/
So I am not denying the importance of money nor am I allergic to it 😉 . But money is not what I am living for!
Below are the questions asked to my master and his answers:
Q. What do you think is your role in todays India?
A. Even I am thinking about this … Our country has to be freed from all the corruption, injustice etc … There is lots of work to be done, don’t only ask what’s my role… you have a role to play as well!
Our Country has been divided and sold off in the name of castes … Need to really forget about all these castes, and only have one identity, I am a Human Being!
Q. In the next 10 years where do you see India?
A. Don’t ask me where India will be in 10 years, lets ask where we want it to be!!
This story I got in form of PPT. Here it is:
Once upon a time a very young woodcutter asked for a job in a timber merchant, and he got it. His used to get good salary and working conditions were also very good. Woodcutter used to LOVE his job and was determined to do his best. Being very happy with this young woodcutter, once, his boss gave him an Axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to fell the trees. The first day, the woodcutter brought fifteen (20) trees. “Congratulations,” the boss said, “YOU are doing awesome!”
The determined woodcutter worked harder the next day, but he only could bring ten (15) trees. The third day he worked even harder, but he was only able to bring seven (12) trees. Day after day he was bringing less and less trees.”I must be losing my strength.” The woodcutter thought. But somehow his mind was not agreeing to this reason. He started introspecting but didn’t get an answer on how wass it possible that on putting 100% effort also, it’s not bearing fruit!!
Finally, he went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.
“When was the last time you sharpened your axe?” the boss asked.
“Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees…”
Moral: Most of us never update our skills. We think that whatever we have learned is very much enough. Sharpening our skills from time to time is very much essential.
So keep learning 🙂 Happy Learning 🙂
P.S: Example given here has limited purpose and don’t stretch it too much 🙂 Do Save Trees!! 🙂